Stage Of Jakarta Life: Consolidation Stage
Consolidation Stage Part 3
Loyalty:
For a happy community it is essential to give loyalty to your group, your family and to yourself. Experienced the same personal tensions and inadequacies as you have so help ease their load by your support.
Introspection:
The Consolidation Stage is often a time of useful contemplation and introspection while you are sitting under a coconut tree quietly having your mid life crisis. If you are not happy in Jakarta by now then the root cause may well be dissatisfaction with your profession or your responsibilities.
Now is a useful time to plan a career change or weigh up the pros and cons of a change. If the cause of your unhappiness in Jakarta is a relationship problem with your partner a posting to Jakarta will almost certainly aggravate that problem. It is then time to consider your options.
If you still feel desperately unhappy after a few months you should seriously decide whether Jakarta is really for you. Perhaps you should return to your home country before your contract expires. Not liking Jakarta does not mean you are a failure. Far from it. You may be somebody who functions extremely well socially and professionally in a smaller embassy or in a European country or in a post with problems more in keeping with your cultural preferences or your professional skills. Being able to recognise that and admit it is in itself a real achievement.
If you were lonely or dissatisfied before coming to Jakarta then you are likely to experience the same in Jakarta. A complicated Jakarta lifestyle does not provide immunity from emotional disturbance or unhappiness.
Now is a useful time to plan a career change or weigh up the pros and cons of a change. If the cause of your unhappiness in Jakarta is a relationship problem with your partner a posting to Jakarta will almost certainly aggravate that problem. It is then time to consider your options.
If you still feel desperately unhappy after a few months you should seriously decide whether Jakarta is really for you. Perhaps you should return to your home country before your contract expires. Not liking Jakarta does not mean you are a failure. Far from it. You may be somebody who functions extremely well socially and professionally in a smaller embassy or in a European country or in a post with problems more in keeping with your cultural preferences or your professional skills. Being able to recognise that and admit it is in itself a real achievement.
If you were lonely or dissatisfied before coming to Jakarta then you are likely to experience the same in Jakarta. A complicated Jakarta lifestyle does not provide immunity from emotional disturbance or unhappiness.
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