Immigrate or moving from other country to another country have the ability to positively confront the obstacles of a new environment. Majority of individuals and families that some ways to combat stress produced by culture shock.
Here might be can help you to solve a problem or fight with a culture schock in a new environment:
- You and your family relationships member(specially between husband and wife, parents & kids)need to pay attention and support each other, specially at work. If you pay attention and support each other as a family member in a new environment, make you easy to solve a problem specially in difficult times.
- Learn to allow family member to feel sad about the things that have left behind: like family, friends, toys, daily activity, etc.
- Focus the power getting through the transition. By learn to accept the new country with support each other (family member) to recognize the sorrow of leaving old country to a new country.
- If you could find ways to live with the things that don't satisfy you 100%, by establish simple goals and evaluate progress.
- If you could follow your ambitions and continue your plans for the future that's one option to maintain confidence in yourself.
- If you could develop your hobby in the new area as soon as posible after you settle with house, car, children's school, work,etc. Do it now!
- Always remember the good things you already have done before. Specially your daily attitute!
- Never forget, there are always resources that you can do. As long as you want!
- The important key is "be patient". Why? Because the act of migrating is a process of adaptation to new situation, that you never know before. The process will take some time.
- Be easy on yourself! Try to learn to be constructive. If you encounter an unfavorable environment, don't put yourself in that position again.
- If can't do it, don't try too hard! Why? Don't push yourself to hard. If you try to hard you will get frustration.
- Try to maintain contact with your ethnic groups. This will give you a feeling of belonging and you will reduce your feelings of loneliness and alienation
- Maintain contact with the new culture. Learn the language. Volunteer in community activities that allow you to practice the language that you are learning. This will help you feel less stress about language and useful at the same time.
- Take the exercise! Like:swim, tennis, golf, horse riding or an aerobics class, etc. A regular form of physical activity in your routine. This will help combat the sadness and loneliness in a constructive manner. You can meet people and make a new friends!
- To passing periods of stress you can do relaxation and meditation. Relaxation and meditation are proven to be very positive.
- Look for help, if you feel stressed! Always someone or some service available to help you. Check it out with your home doctor information, local service community or get the information services.
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Showing posts with label The Excitement Stage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label The Excitement Stage. Show all posts
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Friday, September 26, 2008
The Excitement Stage, Living In Jakarta
Arrival:
This is the start of your personal reaction to change. You will inevitably experience Culture Shock which just means the adjustment process everybody goes through when they move to a new country, a new culture or just return to their home country. This Excitement Stage is similar to a Honeymoon Period.
While anxiously and excitedly preparing to move to Jakarta everybody has a preconceived mental objective of what they will achieve professionally and personally. Hopes and aspirations are often set unrealistically high but that is of no concern. Everybody also has another mental image of the exotic travel brochure Asian city possibly reinforced by your arrival flight over the countryside and city. The reality is different from the anticipation but the excitement of arrival allows you to ignore the crowded airport terminal, the long wait for luggage and those parts of the city obviously in need of a facelift.
Depression is the last thing on your mind. You are met and made welcome. Your professional peer group is genuinely interested in a new face. You appreciate the boost to your ego as you graciously overlook the car and accommodation which may be different from your usual standards but which are clearly more than just adequate. Keep in mind that in the Antarctic it has been shown that psychological adjustment problems to isolation appear to increase with greater physical comfort. Nobody is suggesting you should live in a grass hut in Jakarta. You will be enthusiastically determined to do well, be successful, be tolerant and not be concerned with trivia such as cars and accommodation. You may realise that more effective pre departure planning would have been very useful to you and your family.
Be Yourself:
During this Excitement Stage it is important to display your usual personality. A change to more outgoing, attention seeking behaviour often associated with excessive alcohol consumption followed by a reversion to your normal personality unsettles the adoptive/acceptance mechanisms of your peers. Such behaviour often simply reflects natural exuberance and optimism. Equally it may reflect insecurity after realising the inherent isolation and geographical restrictions of Jakarta.
Maintain your own private identity as best you can while you wait for your personal effects to be delivered. Don't arrive in Jakarta just with suitcase in hand. Bring a few personal items and familiar possessions with you such as a favourite ornament or a photo of your dog. It is especially important for your children's security to have several familiar toys with them while they are settling in.
While anxiously and excitedly preparing to move to Jakarta everybody has a preconceived mental objective of what they will achieve professionally and personally. Hopes and aspirations are often set unrealistically high but that is of no concern. Everybody also has another mental image of the exotic travel brochure Asian city possibly reinforced by your arrival flight over the countryside and city. The reality is different from the anticipation but the excitement of arrival allows you to ignore the crowded airport terminal, the long wait for luggage and those parts of the city obviously in need of a facelift.
Depression is the last thing on your mind. You are met and made welcome. Your professional peer group is genuinely interested in a new face. You appreciate the boost to your ego as you graciously overlook the car and accommodation which may be different from your usual standards but which are clearly more than just adequate. Keep in mind that in the Antarctic it has been shown that psychological adjustment problems to isolation appear to increase with greater physical comfort. Nobody is suggesting you should live in a grass hut in Jakarta. You will be enthusiastically determined to do well, be successful, be tolerant and not be concerned with trivia such as cars and accommodation. You may realise that more effective pre departure planning would have been very useful to you and your family.
Be Yourself:
During this Excitement Stage it is important to display your usual personality. A change to more outgoing, attention seeking behaviour often associated with excessive alcohol consumption followed by a reversion to your normal personality unsettles the adoptive/acceptance mechanisms of your peers. Such behaviour often simply reflects natural exuberance and optimism. Equally it may reflect insecurity after realising the inherent isolation and geographical restrictions of Jakarta.
Maintain your own private identity as best you can while you wait for your personal effects to be delivered. Don't arrive in Jakarta just with suitcase in hand. Bring a few personal items and familiar possessions with you such as a favourite ornament or a photo of your dog. It is especially important for your children's security to have several familiar toys with them while they are settling in.
Social Groups:
Initial social attractions will generally arise from previous common work or social experience. During this time your closest social relationships are initially formed between those with similar duties eg. Teachers will associate with teachers. You may well find there is eventually over-identification with one another in these groups. The initial relationship may then weaken as minor perceived character imperfections change from minor blemishes to warts.
Climate:
The heat and high relative humidity may affect you adversely. You may be very tired and lethargic with any activity, particularly physical activity, being a real drain. Human beings are distressed by changes in climate: Initially they are inefficient but over time that improves. Part of this adaptation is behavioural and physiological but part is emotional or psychological as you become accustomed to your new environment. These climatic effects are worse in those who are new to these hot tropical conditions. Your body will slowly adapt. Be reassured your lethargy will fade.
Prolonged spells of wet weather adversely affect the whole community. The Wet Season can be a long grind for some people. Much Jakarta entertainment is indoors so communal depression lifts when the sun shines. A day of some outdoor physical activity is remarkably therapeutic.
End of the Excitement Stage
After about three to four months you will notice the fascination and excitement of your new surroundings is waning. The Excitement Stage or Honeymoon Period is gradually coming to an end.
You will have realised by the end of the Excitement Stage that to be an effective person in Jakarta you need three essential components: Job motivation, Emotional stability and Social compatibility.
During the Excitement Stage you will have enjoyed Jakarta and savoured its many delights. Your children will have settled in quickly. These weeks will have been spent enthusiastically exploring the city and taking multiple photos of the tourist sites. You may even have worked out how and where to buy household essentials. Most of all you will have thoroughly enjoyed this stage.
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Initial social attractions will generally arise from previous common work or social experience. During this time your closest social relationships are initially formed between those with similar duties eg. Teachers will associate with teachers. You may well find there is eventually over-identification with one another in these groups. The initial relationship may then weaken as minor perceived character imperfections change from minor blemishes to warts.
Climate:
The heat and high relative humidity may affect you adversely. You may be very tired and lethargic with any activity, particularly physical activity, being a real drain. Human beings are distressed by changes in climate: Initially they are inefficient but over time that improves. Part of this adaptation is behavioural and physiological but part is emotional or psychological as you become accustomed to your new environment. These climatic effects are worse in those who are new to these hot tropical conditions. Your body will slowly adapt. Be reassured your lethargy will fade.
Prolonged spells of wet weather adversely affect the whole community. The Wet Season can be a long grind for some people. Much Jakarta entertainment is indoors so communal depression lifts when the sun shines. A day of some outdoor physical activity is remarkably therapeutic.
End of the Excitement Stage
After about three to four months you will notice the fascination and excitement of your new surroundings is waning. The Excitement Stage or Honeymoon Period is gradually coming to an end.
You will have realised by the end of the Excitement Stage that to be an effective person in Jakarta you need three essential components: Job motivation, Emotional stability and Social compatibility.
During the Excitement Stage you will have enjoyed Jakarta and savoured its many delights. Your children will have settled in quickly. These weeks will have been spent enthusiastically exploring the city and taking multiple photos of the tourist sites. You may even have worked out how and where to buy household essentials. Most of all you will have thoroughly enjoyed this stage.
Living in Jakarta it's like Heaven
Living in Jakarta:
is 80% Heaven and 20% Hell.
My concern and yours is with the 20%.
While in Jakarta if you have ever felt lonely, bored, frustrated, envious, rejected, inadequate, unwanted, cynical or depressed then welcome to the club: You are perfectly normal as everyone else who has lived in Jakarta has experienced some or all of those emotions. Such mood changes are temporary and of no consequence. Should the mood changes persist or become troublesome to you or to your family then seek professional help.
Inevitably there will be problems when a small group of people of varying interests and backgrounds is thrown together in close personal association and isolated from their mainstream home country society for a year or more.
The following information and personal assessment of Jakarta living is to give you an understanding of why life in Jakarta causes these difficulties and how to deal with those difficulties more effectively.
You will see on reflection that most of what follows is largely nothing new to you.
Most importantly remember we are only dealing with the 20%.
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Inevitably there will be problems when a small group of people of varying interests and backgrounds is thrown together in close personal association and isolated from their mainstream home country society for a year or more.
The following information and personal assessment of Jakarta living is to give you an understanding of why life in Jakarta causes these difficulties and how to deal with those difficulties more effectively.
You will see on reflection that most of what follows is largely nothing new to you.
Most importantly remember we are only dealing with the 20%.
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